Building a Strong Marriage One Day at a Time
I often think of the marriage as a large fishing net and every promise kept as a knot tied in the net. We will need a thousand knots tied, one at a time, day by day. We will need this strength because life can dump some very heavy things into our marriages. There are pebbles and there are boulders and everything in between. Some of those are going to take the strongest of nets in order to not break. A fragile net will not hold major challenges. It is too late once a major problem has been dropped into the net, to start tying knots to strengthen it. You can’t just one day pull great collaborative communication out, like a rabbit out of a hat. It takes careful work and lots of practice. So just be faithful daily in little things, small agreements, and be sure to follow through on your word. If you said you would do the dishes before bed, then do the dishes. If you said you would put the children to bed, do that. These things are not always left undone because of intent, but more often because we throw our word out lightly and then get distracted. Say what you will do and do what you say. It is so very simple. But when you have been faithfully tying these knots and creating a strong net, you will be so glad it is there.