Facing the Challenges of Being a True Help-Mate
Hopefully you are familiar with the term “helpmate”. It comes from the creation story and was God’s answer to not living life alone. But the question (and encouragement) I am putting on the table today is to actually “help” your mate! I say this to remind myself and others because each of us has so much to tend to daily, I think we can get so under our own load, so aware of our to-do list that we may lose sight of being helpmates.
The simplest sound bite I can offer to facilitate this idea is to check in with your mate: “What is on your plate today? Is there anything I can do to help?” In other words, what are they trying to carry in their life? First of all, become aware! Second of all, what can you actually do?
I am first speaking of tangible items on your mate’s list but there is a second list which is unseen. What burdens are they carrying in their minds and on their hearts? Concerns, worries, fears, difficult decisions are all areas where we can be help mates. Maybe we can’t solve them but we can come up under them with a safe place to vent. We can be sounding boards. We can pray for them. We can offer encouragement and support for a difficult load at work or with a child or family member.
My biggest caution here is simply to not get so caught up in your own world that you forget to help the one beside you! We must keep answering in tangible ways the 2 big questions,”Do you love me and do you care?” Not lip service to caring but a deep abiding caring! “Lord, open our eyes to see that our closest ‘neighbor’ is the one right next to us. Open our eyes to see needs. Open our ears to hear the heart cries of our mate. Give us willing hearts and hands in tangible ways to show we care.”