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Let’s talk about increasing your CCP:  Couples Communication Power.  I have developed specific steps to help couples with wounded broken relationships commence to begin a healing process.  When a bone is broken in the physical world, the doctor orders a...

This is a tough encouragement:  Tables,  sofas,  even the sidewalks can be places of intimacy, but nothing is likely as intimate as our marriage beds.  Watch over the marriage bed.  Be careful about forming habits that lead away from intimacy...

One thing I really don’t like is a movie with a very bad ending.  In fact, if I know it has a bad ending, I want go, except for an epic film like the Titanic.  For sure, when a couple...

Some say expectations get us in trouble, that they are disappointments waiting to happen.  In my office, I like to make distinctions between legitimate and illegitimate exceptions.  I believe there are several expectations that are absolutely right within marriage.  I have a...

For years I have been using the working definition of intimacy as in-to-me-see.  That is why I titled this blog the "joys and fears" of intimacy.  Since one of our basic longings is to be known, we can experience the...

The movies set up love, the wedding, and marriage in a fantasy world.  One contributing factor is that in the movies, there’s always music playing to evoke and enhance the mood.  In real life, you have to create your own...

I alluded in my recent Facebook post to the easy way to look at your personality.  The DISC and Myers- Briggs are each 4 personality factor tests as are many of the ones on the market.  (If you are ever...

      One of the most popular books ever on the subject of marriage was His Needs/Her Needs by Willard Harley.  The assumption here was that each person had needs that set up expectations that those needs will be...

Life is a journey. Well that's nothing new, you say. But do you believe it and do you live like you believe it? We are on our way somewhere and that somewhere is a place called heaven. This is how...

The research shows hands down that women are the ones voicing criticisms far more often than men. I think about this, being of the female category, asking, "Why?" I know criticism is a function of the eyes, the filters through...