The longer we live together, the more familiar we become with each other’s habits, language, and gestures.  This does not necessarily mean we are growing closer and more intimate. Obviously, the more we share, the more often we share, the more...
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Hopefully you are familiar with the term “helpmate”.  It comes from the creation story and was God’s answer to not living life alone. But the question (and encouragement) I am putting on the table today is to actually “help” your...
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Pardon me for using a bowling term, but it is the best way I could describe our efforts to keep the ball on the lane.  Keep the bumpers up if you don’t want to end up in the gutter. No....
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If you have gotten stuck in staleness, hostility, or distance, there is a way out. There are things that lead to greater distance and things that will lead you back to intimacy and closeness. The major stance that will lead...
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I often think of the marriage as a large fishing net and every promise kept as a knot tied in the net.  We will need a thousand knots tied, one at a time, day by day.  We will need this...
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One of the very challenging aspects of marriage is the giving and receiving of feedback.  We have to express our needs and wants directly to our mate.  We have to express the things that bother us.  Ouch! Hopefully we have...
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